TikTok star Mikayla Nogueira just dropped news that’s shaking up her 15 million followers.
After two years of marriage, she’s getting divorced from husband Cody Hawken.
But there’s something different about this breakup announcement—it’s remarkably mature, thoughtful, and protective of both parties involved.
In a candid TikTok video, the 27-year-old makeup influencer opened up about ending her marriage while making it clear she won’t be sharing salacious details or throwing anyone under the bus.
A Marriage That Started With Promise
Nogueira and Hawken’s love story began like so many modern romances—with a Tinder match in winter 2020. After five years together, they tied the knot in 2023 with a lavish ceremony that delighted fans who’d followed their relationship journey.
The influencer has been remarkably transparent with her audience throughout their relationship, even sharing difficult moments like when Hawken entered rehab for drug and alcohol addiction last year.
Breaking the News With Grace
Starting her announcement by telling viewers they’d want to “sit down,” Nogueira delivered the news directly.
I am getting a divorce. Take a minute. Take it in. I am getting a divorce.
What followed wasn’t the typical celebrity breakup narrative filled with accusations or veiled references. Instead, she emphasized mutual respect and ongoing care.
Cody and I love each other so much, we would do literally anything for each other.
Protecting Privacy While Being Public
Nogueira made it crystal clear she won’t be sharing why they’re divorcing, and her reasoning reveals emotional maturity that’s rare in influencer culture.
I’m not going to be sharing any details whatsoever as to why Cody and I have made this decision. The main reason I am doing that is because I want to protect Cody. Cody deserves that. We both want to heal. Cody deserves to be happy.
This approach stands in stark contrast to the typical social media breakup, where every detail gets dissected and weaponized for engagement.
An Amicable Split That Defies Expectations
The influencer emphasized that their separation isn’t what people might expect from a failed marriage.
This is an extremely shitty thing. No one gets married to get a divorce, absolutely no one. But what I can tell you is that this is very amicable. We talk every day. He comes over for dinner. He sees the dogs.
She reflected on their five-year relationship with genuine fondness, refusing to let the ending taint what they shared.
He and I were together for five years, married for two, and they are some of the best memories of my life, memories that I will cherish forever. And I do not regret a single thing, nor does Cody.
Addressing Addiction Without Using It As Ammunition
Perhaps most impressively, Nogueira specifically asked her audience not to blame Hawken’s past struggles with addiction for their divorce.
She made a direct plea to keep that part of his journey separate from their decision to split.
Cody and I have been very open about his struggles with addiction, and I’m going to ask you, if you can, please leave that out of the conversation. They are two separate things. It is hard enough as it is, to be an addict and to struggle to stay sober.
This kind of compassion—especially when going through personal pain—demonstrates remarkable character and understanding of addiction as a health issue rather than a moral failing.
Time to Process Before Going Public
One detail that explains Nogueira’s composed delivery: she’s already been working through this privately for months.
The reason I’m pretty put together in this video is because we made this decision last year, and I’ve spent the last few months processing this, a lot of crying, a lot of talking to family, friends, therapy, everything you can think of to get to a place where I can make this video. Now I heal.
She’s been doing the work—crying, talking with loved ones, attending therapy—before making any public statement. This approach shows wisdom about managing personal crisis while living in the public eye.
Moving Forward With Grace
Nogueira asked her followers not to “pit people against each other” or “pick sides,” recognizing how online audiences often turn breakups into team sports.
She also reassured fans that her beauty content—what made her famous in the first place—will continue unchanged.
For anyone going through divorce or separation, Nogueira’s approach offers valuable lessons:
- You can acknowledge pain without assigning blame
- Processing privately before going public protects everyone involved
- Professional help matters—therapy provides tools for navigating difficult transitions
- Loving someone and leaving them aren’t mutually exclusive
- Protecting an ex-partner’s dignity doesn’t diminish your own experience
Divorce represents one of life’s most stressful experiences, ranking alongside death of a loved one and major illness. Research shows that divorce can trigger depression, anxiety, and physical health problems if not processed properly.
Mental health professionals emphasize the importance of support systems, professional counseling, and time to grieve when marriages end. Nogueira appears to be following this roadmap, prioritizing healing over content creation or public sympathy.
Her announcement sets a new standard for how influencers might handle personal crises—with honesty that respects boundaries, compassion that extends to former partners, and self-care that happens before cameras start rolling.
Sometimes the most powerful content isn’t about drama or details. It’s about showing millions of followers what dignity looks like when everything’s falling apart.